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March 31st, 2007

11:00 PM

Sign of the times

Whoa, I was away from the Internet for a day or two and look what I missed: another drama about Mean Gurl Bloggers.

Now, the poor dear has been ripped to shreds by the double combo of Karen Scott and Dionne Galace  - note to self: if I ever become famous, must hire them as PR people to deal with annoying people - that I'm not to say anything more about the matter. Okay, maybe one thing: Bam, Karen, Dear Author, and Smart Bitches have been singled out by Maria as the Mean Gurlz but not a word is said about me. Hey, is that an oversight or something?

Nah, I'm just kidding. I'm pleased to be spared more drama after the recent drama in this place. In fact, I'll be so much happier if people start overlooking me and start aiming for the above mentioned sites instead. Sorry, ladies, but you know what they say - better you than me, heh, heh, heh.

It strikes me that once upon a time All About Romance tends to be mentioned as the biggest Mean Gurlz HQ in the Web. Now it's more fashionable to take whacks at Bam and Karen and gang. What does this say about AAR? Has it become so big and well-respected that people stop pointing fingers at it the way you pick on the small potatoes while staying away from the big guns? Or has it been around so long that people just more or less accept that it's there and don't really have much to say about it being mean and nasty and all? Or have the current crop of bloggers eclipsed AAR in notoriety?

Now, this isn't a post to bash AAR, as I fear some people may take it to be. I love AAR and what it stands for, although I confess I haven't been there in a while. It's nothing personal - I haven't been to The Romance Reader for a while either. I find myself reading what catches my fancy nowadays and less concerned about what's the hottest or latest "in" book or author nowadays - something I realize I have to do instead of keeping up with the newest releases every month and reviewing them quickly if I want to avoid another burning out that took me some years back and forced me to take a hiatus - so I prefer the more irreverent and sometimes off-topic discourses of the genre on the less formal setting of a blog.

Perhaps I should go back there to see if the reviews are much "nicer" than they used to be. Mind you, since I stared out, I've learned so much on making my reviews hopefully better by reading the reviews on TRR and AAR as I went along. I've learned to cut down on some off-topic and self-indulgent ramblings, realize that some words that I believe are spelled correctly just aren't, how to write in a way that hopefully get my points across more concisely, and all. I have been quietly going through some of the reviews I did way back on this site and blush in shame as I correct all those horrible spellings and grammar boo-boos while cutting off all those self-indulgent ramblings that don't do anything to improve the review. So if they have found a way to turn themselves from one of the most convenient punching bags back in those days into a respected establishment, maybe there are some things I should learn from them!
7 comment(s).

Posted by Karen Scott:

Mrs G, you wound me, I was pretty nice to her... She was hugely entertaining, and managed to bring some laughter to my blog again.

She was just too stupid to realise that she was digging herself into a deep hole, and expecting others to happily join her and her 'friends'.:-?

I'm still killing myself over the fact that she thought my review of Thea Devine's Sensation was unwarranted. She obviously never read the book.:o
April 1st, 2007 @ 12:44 AM

Posted by bam:

Karen, I'll have to re-read all 122 posts, but I don't think you called her a fucktard ONCE... for you, that's... jeez, how did your brain now blow up?

Mrs. G, talk about self-indulgent... Karen calls my reviews "tomes" and Sybil says she has to take a nap sometimes in the middle of them. I just ramble on and on and on...
April 1st, 2007 @ 2:02 AM

Posted by Kitty:

Mrs. G, I have to say thank you for one of the funniest things I've read in a while. I have a friend who's told me how sheerly catty things are in the romance world (yep, I'm aware of the irony of my name here ;) ). Wow. That'll teach me not to believe her! :P
April 1st, 2007 @ 9:10 PM

Posted by Maria Duncan:

Okay, I could ignore this, but I just don't want to.
There was no deep hole to fall into. Go through the 122 posts and show me the deep hole. Please, show me how I made an ass of myself
April 2nd, 2007 @ 1:23 AM

Posted by Mrs G:

Maria, I think Nora Roberts had it right on Karen's blog - nobody is going to change their minds and the arguments about the matter are becoming circular. Why not just agree to disagree and leave it at that?

By the way, the reason you set off some nerves is because you bring up morality in your initial blog entry. It is not a good idea to judge someone whom you don't agree with as morally inferior in some way. It only get people annoyed with you. There is nothing "moral" about reviews. Save the morality play for matters of actual importance in real life.
April 2nd, 2007 @ 1:45 AM

Posted by Karen Scott:

Bam, you're right, I didn't call her a fucktard once, and it wasn't because I wasn't thinking it, it would have felt too much like picking on a child.
April 2nd, 2007 @ 4:19 AM

Posted by Maria Duncan:

The initial blog wasn't supposed to offend anyone, it was my perception of things and I was asking for other people's opinions. It had nothing to do with judging people. The problem I had with some people was that they got all riled up and wanted to shut me down because I had a differing opinion to them. It all got really personal, like above, Karen calling me childish, what's that about? I am an adult, living in the real world. I just don't think the way she is. So I reacted to that.
I kept trying to make it clear what I was arguing because people kept getting the wrong idea, I did not want to or expect to change anyone's opinions. On ALison's blog there was a great debate which actually changed my viewpoint slightly.
But Karen and many other commenters at her blog did nothing more than twist my words. Now I wonder why I bothered arguing in the first place. There's no talking to some people.
And when I gave examples to back up my point, I didn't mention Smart Bitches because I don't read them. And just because I said there were reviews I didn't like on those sites, that's not to say I avoid them, because most of the time they give very fair reviews and interesting viewpoints.
April 2nd, 2007 @ 4:56 AM