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January 8th, 2008

11:08 PM

Self-censorsed blogging


Warning: this is a self-pity party entry. You may start getting the idea that I am personally attacking you (and if you are stupid enough to believe this, then you're most likely the stupid people I am talking about, so yes, I am attacking you if that is the case, YOU MORON). You then may get tempted to borrow "snarky" clich├ęs from your favorite "snarky" idols as you try very hard to be "snarky" in your comments while adding phrases like "Um...", "Uh.." in order to be passive-aggressive in a most transparent manner. Don't blame me then if I just delete your comments and you get even more angry and try to pretend that you have scored a point against me in your next comment, which will also get deleted on the grounds of being predictable and just plain annoying.

I just deleted a long post about Cassie Edwards' plagiarism that I was about to publish because I know that it contains some very unpopular opinions that will get me crucified by the mobs that are always present within a majority.

Yes, I have just censored myself. On my own blog. What is the world coming to when someone can't say anything on one's own blog, eh?

I realize that while I don't have a problem with bloggers, the sheer number of idiotic commentators are starting to get on my nerves. I dislike having to babysit a comment thread knowing that at least three out of ten people are going to be bloody stupid types who completely miss a point that is right in front of them, derail the discussion to argue pointless semantics, or take one word out of context in a post and start a new and completely irrelevant trollish scree. I am tired of envisioning most of the enthusiastically bitchy but completely missing the point commentators as young ladies trying way too hard to be witty. Sometimes having to deal with forced sarcasm that completely misses the point at the same time is a pain in the rear end.

Then there are the moralists. I stopped looking at Karen's thread about Literotica due to the sheer number of anonymous posters shrilly insisting that everyone with even the slightest empathy for Literotica is a pedophile rapist who must surely sexually abuse children for kicks. Once these people descend into a discussion with their overzealous brand of insanity, the comment thread is, to me, officially done for as it will degenerate into a mess of accusations and defenses.

Therefore, the very idea of dealing with such a circus again has me finally deciding to just not to put up my blog entry about Cassie Edwards. I know at that point that some of the things I will say are very unpopular and therefore someone is going to take the ball and run away with it, blowing things up either in the comments thread or in some blog somewhere else until what I initially said has been changed in constant retelling into something else altogether. Having been through three of such circuses, two of which I have no idea how they started since some people just took a sentence or phrase in one blog entry and create a brand new drama around it, I am really not keen on being put through another one. And I fear that may happen if I put up the blog entry.

It's depressing but I think I have stopped trusting that people will take the time to try to understand what I have to say. I have come to expect people to just see a phrase that pushes their buttons and, using their preconceived prejudice that I hate them and everybody, view the whole thing as a personal attack and start shooting right away. I am confident that this is indeed what will happen if I put up the blog entry. That or some people will start coming in to scream at me for "hating" on Nora Roberts, Smart Bitches, or anyone else in the majority whose opinions I may differ even slightly from, thus starting some blog/site war thing that I have no intention of ever getting caught in. And then I will spend the next few days trying to clarify that I have nothing against Nora Roberts, Smart Bitches, et cetera, until I drop down dead because nobody is listening.
In fact, I suspect right now that some people will be going "See? She's such a coward! She can't take what she dishes out! Score one for Good People everywhere!" I'm also have this feeling that someone will take this blog entry as an evidence that I support Cassie Edwards and plagiarism, heh.

Well, if being driven to brink of exhaustion at having to deal with constant idiocy, accusations of hidden agendas by people, and other nonsense makes me a coward, yeah, then I'm a coward. In fact, I'm cowardly enough to tell myself that I shouldn't say anything controversial until March at least, although knowing myself, I'd probably can't help myself by February.

In the meantime, I'll let someone else with more stamina and brass to fight. I'll just sit back quietly and watch the fireworks from the sidelines for the time being.

20 comment(s).

Posted by sallahdog:

I understand where you are coming from Mrs. Giggles. I also admit it saddens me.

When did disagreement with someone suddenly become a hanging offense? I completely disagreed with the Lit thing at Karens, and soon left most of the discussion because it was clear that many didn't care to do more than shoot off, rather than look at the facts.

I am just reading the Cassie Edwards thing now.. I don't know how I feel about it. It seems people are more upset that she did a shitty job (hey, this is CE we are talking about here) of using sources and then not crediting them.

Its not like the La Nora/ Dailey thing where the romance, situations and interactions were copied.

could you at least just write what you thought and then don't enable comments? I would personally love to hear someone elses take on this...

I did think some of the 'girlz' were taking a bit of glee in smacking the Edwards. Mob mentality does tend to get in the way of really good discussions..
January 9th, 2008 @ 12:33 AM

Posted by Ellie M.:

I'm disappointed, too. I like to see a variety of viewpoints on hot topics (preferably rational viewpoints).
January 9th, 2008 @ 1:02 AM

Posted by Holly:

This is the very reason I seldom comment on other posts, or write ones for our blog. I have no desire to get caught up in some flame war, or have my blog taken over by overzealous women who feel the need to "prove their point" in a personal attack on either myself or the author/blogger in question.

Long ago I decided to just watch from the sidelines. Perhaps some would call me a coward for this, but I have enough personal drama in my life, I don't think I need blogger drama to add to it.

I, too, am curious to read your thoughts on the CE thing, however. Because I wonder if they would mirror my own. I guess we'll never know.
January 9th, 2008 @ 2:21 AM

Posted by Casee:

That's sad you have to censor. It's smart too, especially if you're trying to avoid a flame war.

These days, you can't post an opinion about something without it being seen as a personal attack. Nevermind that I can have a problem with a book and think the author is a perfectly nice person. I'm still attacking said author.

So what non-contraversial thing can we blog about? Hmmm. I'll have to think about it. Pretty soon we may just be posting our grocery lists.
January 9th, 2008 @ 2:40 AM

Posted by Anonymous:

So what non-contraversial thing can we blog about?

Hillary Clinton?
January 9th, 2008 @ 3:48 AM

Posted by Leslie Kelly:

>I'd probably can't help myself by February. <

I give you til next week.

January 9th, 2008 @ 3:51 AM

Posted by Book Utopia Mom:

I don't think it's cowardice. Frankly, when people refuse to approach discussions rationally and willing to actually listen to other viewpoints instead of sticking their fingers in their ears and whistling Dixie - or worse, slinging mud - it's time to step back and step out. Nothing constructive comes from such conversations. All those involved get are pats on the back for agreeing or headaches for daring to voice a dissenting opinion.
January 9th, 2008 @ 4:36 AM

Posted by Amarinda Jones:

"So what non-controversial thing can we blog about?"

What about collecting bottle tops?
January 9th, 2008 @ 5:16 AM

Posted by Teddypig:

Jenny Cruise? Uh nah not that either.
January 9th, 2008 @ 5:56 AM

Posted by Gennita Low:

We can talk about more cow bells?:)

Maybe you can blog about this when the thing dies down a bit and less people are googling about the Cassie Controversy. By the way, I just censored myself by deleting two paragraphs, LOL.
January 9th, 2008 @ 10:36 AM

Posted by Josie:

Post It..........Post It

Fuck the (not really all that smart) Bitches and the Jan(y)es and their boot-lickers. They're so tiresome and tedious and Junior-high! (talk about mutual appreciation societies..geez)

Come on......post it...of course the little club members will come after you like rabid dogs, but that's the fun, right - getting em all wound up - you know, like little toys - and then letting them go....it'll be fun!
January 9th, 2008 @ 12:39 PM

Posted by annvremont:

uh...ehrm...eh, well...

January 9th, 2008 @ 1:19 PM

Posted by Angelia Sparrow:

It's not cowardice.

It's battle fatigue.

Seriously, sometimes you just need a break from controversy and snark. So blog about puppies and kittens for a few days, and leave the orbital death lasers until you feel better.

Know your limits. Pick which hill you want to die on. If this can pass, let it pass and resume normal programming when you're ready.

(and apparently, I'm having a mild attack of cliche's this morning.)
January 9th, 2008 @ 7:54 PM

Posted by Angelia Sparrow:

Not to mention one of inappropriate apostrophe use. AUGH! Sorry folks.
January 9th, 2008 @ 7:57 PM

Posted by Zeek:

Ditto what everyone else said.
**editing myself too**
January 9th, 2008 @ 10:28 PM

Posted by FerfeLaBat:

That was an excellent rant. It scares me a little that you, of all people, self censored. It feels like someone turned Galaxy Quest into fan fic and gave it a horror ending. I hope your sense of humor returns soon. Big Brother starts in 34 days.
January 9th, 2008 @ 10:39 PM

Posted by Emily Ryan-Davis:

I'm not sure what your take on the situation is because I'm not a regular blog reader (not a very regular blog reader anyway; it's not a reflection upon your blog) but I don't believe it's cowardice to rescind a public statement. I have personally refrained from commenting on this situation in a public venue because my opinion isn't the witch-hunt variety, and even in commenting in a private forum I received some (more polite, but vigorously un-budging) dissenting arguments. Kudos for having an opinion. Extra kudos for having the grace to keep your opinion from fueling a fire that won't be put out.
January 10th, 2008 @ 1:01 AM

Posted by Ming Merciless:

WRT your post, I have nothing to say about Cassie Edwards beyond: if she's a plagiarist I hope she suffers for i; if she's not then I hope she doesn't suffer under the spectre of it.

You did a lovely job summing up exactly what I loathe and detest about that cesspit of bad manners and deliberate drama often referred to as the blogosphere. MySpace may be the trailer park of the internet, but the blogosphere is its Jerry Springer Show.
January 10th, 2008 @ 3:08 AM

Posted by Sara Ann Mitchell:

I have to say it's refreshing to come here and see everyone refraining from slamming Mrs. Edwards.
January 10th, 2008 @ 5:53 AM

Posted by sallahdog:

However, I read some of the comments on Cassie Edwards there and wince because these people don't read her books, don't plan to, or don't even read romance novels at all. They are just there to join in the piling on of Cassie Edwards. That, to me, is cruel.

Yup... that was pretty much my problem in a nutshell..
and if you knew what a professional shit stirrer I am, you would know how shocked I was at myself, that this was my reaction..

I am a huge snarker on LKH (as a matter of fact, thats what led me to your sites in the first place)...but where my snear and disdain came from is the fact that I used to LUVVVV her books..

Plagarism is wrong, the reaction of some of the posters (not so much the bitches or dear author) seemed wayyyy over the top...
January 12th, 2008 @ 2:02 AM