Before I start, is it "polyamory romance" or "polyamorous romance"?
Okay, when it comes to polyamorous romance, I'm pretty much walking in the dark since I have no firsthand familiarity with the arrangement and I also do not know anyone who is in such an arrangement. Therefore, what I get from such romances is pretty much all I know about the practice. The thing is, the psychology of the characters in such an arrangement in a romance of this nature always confuse me.
Let's start with why, as in why three people will want to get in such an arrangement. In paranormal romances, very often I am given the eye-rolling excuse of how two men must share a woman because either there is a female shortage in that planet or the men just need that woman to complete them. I don't get it. In contemporary romances, it's even more bewildering. Why would two men, happily in a relationship with each other, suddenly want a woman to join them in bed? Are they scared to be, I don't know, "100% gay"? And let's not even start with all that talk about how bisexual men are apparently not going to be happy unless they are in a relationship with both a man and a woman.
For me, I like my romances to have a relationship that is grounded in some degree of realism, which is to say, I want to understand and relate to how the characters are feeling. When it comes to polyamorous romances, however, way too many authors are either ignoring the emotional aspect in favor of the pumpies or they are creating and redefining sexuality and psychology by pulling things out of their rear ends. They fail to sell me the romance, in other words.
So, anyone knows of any realistic polyamorous romances out there? The ones that work for me right now are usually those that depict two men in a competition over a woman with one man usually leaving for a HEA between the other man and the heroine, which I find far more believable than the usual "we are two gay men who decide to wake up one morning to find a woman to share" nonsense. But if there is one thing I really, really, really do not like in this genre, that is how the two big strong men end up deciding to share the heroine without even asking her in the first place whether she wants to be shared. The heroine would of course be happy to be put in such a situation because she is either too much without a personality to acquire the ability to make a decision or she finds the two guys equally hot so whee, whatever.
And why is it that these heroines never seem to complain about having to service two (or more) men, even men she supposedly are in love with, at the same every night? Talk about exhaustion, especially when these romance heroes are endowed with stamina that no mere human male have. Can you imagine having, you know, both places down there plugged non-stop every night? Ouch. And let's not even start with the amount of cleaning, washing, cooking, and feeding needed to be done, shudder.