I don't like the phrase "het romance". Why? This is because I'm sure if I call the precious darlings of those people "queer romance" or "homo romance", they'd probably give me a lecture on how that H or Q word is politically offensive or something. Because heaven save us from those bizarre straight women trying to protect the sanctity of homosexuals when at the same time they have no problems denigrating their own sex.
I mean, come on. Okay, only a small vocal community of MM authors and readers are going around saying the things that make my eyes roll, but they are starting to cheese me off. We are all romance readers, no? Many "het readers" who read "het romances" are also reading MM romances, so there is no need to act like high and mighty feminists just because they grow up on a diet of fanfiction. Fanfiction, my god. Talk about an bottomless pit of a lack of self-awareness if these people believe that reading het romances is more embarrassing than reading fanfiction.
So why are these people going around slamming "het romances" as insulting relics of patriarchy or some nonsense of that kind? Sure, there are plenty of problems with double standards and hypocritical treatments of sexuality in heroines versus heroes in "het romances", but who are those MM romance fans to hold the higher ground when we have so many atrocious girls-with-penises running around screaming like virginal helpless damsels needing constant protection by a big brawny straight-acting guy? How about the "I'm only gay for you" trope - is that not an insulting relic to, uh, self-loathing among gay men who believe that the only attractive specimen of masculinity is a straight-acting jock as opposed to the effeminate nellies that the bottom of the stories tend to be? If we want to psychoanalyze a genre to point out how deficient it is, we should make sure that our favorite genre is fool-proof to the same treatment, I'm just saying.
And come on, at the end of the day, the couple in both "homo" and "het" romances end up in a relationship. How can these "homo romance" readers claim that marriage is somehow a no-no for modern women when their own heroes embrace the same institution? Why rally non-stop for equality and rights to marry (or at least, blog non-stop about the matter) when you're going to accuse women who believe in marriage to be slaves to patriarchy? Where is the consistency in argument, people, sheesh!
Anyway, my point is this: I'm starting to feel annoyed by some people who are more than happy to latch on to "het readers" to market their books when they at the same time show open disdain for "het romances". Get the hell out of the online "het" romance community if you think we're stupid, you know? If they think "romance" is a joke, then don't call their books "romance". Call it "fiction" then and see how well it sells without latching the book onto the most popular genre around. Don't insult me by asking me to buy their books when they don't even respect me for reading "het romances". They can't have the cake and eat it too.